We have sex primarily for the reason that our survival as a species relies on us having sex and popping out babies every once in a while. But, that’s not the only reason; we have sex as often as we can because oh boy does it feel good. Pleasure is not only a normal component of sexuality, its a healthy and positive thing for relationships. Sexual pleasure is the feeling we have when we are sexually aroused. Sexual arousal is our body’s response to sexual stimulation. We may become aroused by things we hear, see, smell, taste, or touch.
Learning about how pleasure works can help you make better decisions for your sex life. You should also note that people with fulfilling sex lives tend to be less neurotic or negative and have bigger self-esteem and better relationships!
Sources of sexual pleasure
Sexual pleasure can be experienced in many ways – from masturbation, touching, kissing or oral sex, penetrative sex to sexual fantasies and a wide range of other sources. People experience sexual pleasure in all kinds of ways and what one person considers extremely pleasurable, another person may not. There are also many ways to better experience sexual pleasure – by being content with yourself and your partner, for example, or by waiting for the mood to be right for both of you, or by being certain that you are safe from unplanned pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections.
Having good sex
Your opinion and concept of sex has a lot to do with what you’ve learned about it, how it’s viewed by your society or culture, and what value you place on it as a part of your life.
In a sexual relationship, good sex can mean knowing what you want and what your partner wants, knowing how to talk about it comfortably, and never being forced to do anything you don’t want to do. It can also mean experiencing orgasms or an intense physical pleasure from your partner. Having good sex in a relationship can contribute to a person’s overall sexual well-being.
Major life changes, like having children, getting older or getting sick can also have a significant impact on sex and sexual pleasure (both positive and negative). Dealing with such changes could require you and your partner to be adaptable, recognize your limitations and even change the way you think. Keeping the lines of communication open can often save people’s sex lives in the face of unexpected changes.