A little bit of stress is fine, maybe even beneficial. But chronic and too much stress? That’s a totally different story, especially for your desire to have sex.
Emotional stress may affect physical functions, including sexual desire and performance. Realizing what underlying stressors may exist is the first step in treatment. Self-help may work but some people may need to visit a counselor or a doctor. These are the common causes of low sex drive!
Alcohol is usually not the answer to any problem. While alcohol may decrease inhibitions, it also decreases sexual performance and libido. Your partner may not appreciate a drunken advance and may be turned off by it. Alcohol is an addictive drug and you may need help to quit.
Too little sleep
As with any physical activity, a rested body increases performance. Lack of sleep, including lack of proper sleep, may be the culprit that decreases sex drive. Sleep apnea is a potential cause for lack of good sleep and lack of libido. Medical help may be needed if you or your partner suspect it.
Side effects of many prescription medications include loss of libido and sex drive. Some examples include high blood pressure medications including water pills and beta-blockers, cold medications that contain antihistamines and decongestants, antidepressants, narcotic pain pills, chemotherapy drugs. If this is the cause, your doctor may be able to suggest an alternative medication that might have fewer side effects.
Poor body image
Sexy is as sexy feels. Many people have low self-esteem when it comes to their body shape and this can affect their sex drive and desire. Being happy with yourself is an important first step. A supportive partner always helps.
Obesity and being overweight can limit desire because of decreased sexual enjoyment, lack of performance, and poor self-esteem. How you feel about yourself goes a long way in affecting how you enjoy sex. Counseling may be helpful.
Erection problems and low testosterone in men
Erectile dysfunction (ED) can not only affect the ability to have intercourse but also how a man feels about his ability to perform. There are many options available to treat ED and your doctor can help find the option that is best for you and your partner. While a man’s testosterone level gradually falls with aging, there is not necessarily any relationship between hormone levels and the desire for sex. It is just one potential cause for decreased libido and your doctor may want to look for other causes in addition to just low testosterone.
Menopause in women
Menopause may cause physical changes that affect intercourse, including vaginal dryness and pain during intercourse (dyspareunia). Treatments are available to enhance sexual desire and functions after menopause.
Depression affects all facets of life including sex drive. Losing pleasure in daily activities often requires treatment including counseling and perhaps medication. Unfortunately, some antidepressants also depress libido. Your doctor and therapist need to know if low sex drive is one of your symptoms of depression.
Making love is more than just sex. Intimacy and closeness are important parts of a healthy love life. If sexual desire is waning, it may be time to inject romance back into the relationship. Snuggling, giving each other massages, and spending casual time together may help reignite the spark. Sexual desire requires two to tango. Both partners need to feel connected and women especially need the feeling of being close. Poor communication, a sense of betrayal, lack of trust, and repeated fighting and criticism may create a relationship that lacks closeness and intimacy. Counseling may be the answer if couples find that the issues are too tough to resolve on their own.