Anyone who has Internet access these days can access pornography. In the Philippines, talking about sex openly is still taboo and, many young men and women get their knowledge about sexual pleasure from watching pornography in secret. It’s not an ideal substitute for sex education as it can create ideas about sex and sexual pleasure that are very far from reality. It can cause people to believe myths such as that women always like to be controlled during sex; that men with big penises have better sex; or that women can orgasm easily from penetration.
Although pornography may seem to show how people experience pleasure, it doesn’t really. It’s important to be aware that pornography is entertainment. It involves acting, and there are tricks involved in producing pornographic scenes. Therefore, not everything that we see in porn is realistic. However, studies have shown that pornography not just feeds viewers’ fantasies; it also shapes how they engage in intimate activities.
Pornography can actually contain very high rates of violence against women and can promote a degrading and dehumanizing idea of sex among its viewers. This means that people who watch porn may develop unrealistic standards and expectations for sex. While not all porn is violent nor degrading towards women, it is important to remember that pornography does not reflect reality most of the time.
One helpful aspect of porn is that you can use it to learn and recognize what you like and what brings you pleasure. But, we must keep in mind that real sex is very different from porn, and it’s important to have realistic expectations in bed. It also pays to have clear and open communication with your partner when talking about what you would like to sexually experience.
If you want to better understand porn and how we should view and appreciate it, watch the third episode of The Naked Truth Show where beloved influencer/content creator Macoy Dubs as Gina G and sexologist Dr. Rica Cruz discuss what’s good and what’s not good about porn.
Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/sex-wars/201903/what-does-porn-mean-anyway